Raising My Child – Philip

Here are some conversation that gives me the giggle even when I am out of his sight.

I was “selling” him the idea of learning golf and gave him a list of benefits..He answered:

P: That’s a good one, mom. (Sarcastic)

I told him I will arrange a playdate for him and He answered:

P: Come on, are you kidding me?

We were in some conversation and he said:

P: Are you thinking what I’m thinking?

P: That’s a good idea

P: Let’s stay at home and save money ok.

P: Oh..dang it   ( I asked him where he learnt this and he said his teacher!! @_@)

The night came and I was getting P ready for his pjs. Normally we will take a quick shower. He said to me,

P: Mummy, today I poo-poo in school and there is no toilet paper. *my mind started to think 360*

M: Then what did you do?

P: I just wear back my pants. The toilet no paper wor and the other toilet is stuck

M: Did you tell the teacher that the toilet has ran out of toilet paper

P: No

NOW, I am not mad for not having toilet paper. Because paper do run out and someone got to replenish. I M MAD that there was no assistant there when P went to toilet.  It can means a lot of thing

1) is the teacher aware that a child is missing from the class? What if…its kidnapping case?

2) how can the school ensure hygiene care given to child? Do they walk the talk?

3) What if the child face difficulty in the toilet? Where is the care-taker?

..and so I continue to nag and nag…”Next time when you want to go toilet, please tell the teacher. Next time when there is no paper, tell the teacher”

What if its watery poo????? TELL ME TELL ME

Ever since I introduced the “sleep with me” reward, he’s been sleeping with me. and what’s more, I dont have to guide him. He will take on his own to memorise the words. Very good initiatives and when I nag him, he will say “I WONT GET EGG LA”

Then one day, as I picked him up, he greeted me

P: Mummy, I didnt get egg today  *me happy*

Me: Good job.

Me: *teasing tone* how come you always get all correct one? Is it you COOOPY? I purposely stressed on the word “Copy” as its a new vocab to him.

P: No la. Teacher said cannot copy. *so he knows the meaning of copy*

Me: Are you sure?

P: yes

Me: did you copy from xxx, did you copy from yyy …..and I listed all his friends’ names

P: NO LA. I copy (copied) from the whiteboard

@_@

Ever since his spelling and ejaan episodes started, I have been trying many ways to ensure the fella does his revision and scores well. At least, he must have tried and done the revision. If he does not practice and scores nothing, I will be mad because this is NOT the character I want to raise. I want to a system, a discipline system to infuse in his blood.

So if you have read the previous posts on “Kindy Jinz (Part 1-5)”, you will know that I have been and still trying many ways to coax him. and one of them is Sleeping arrangements.

There was once, he scored perfect and I allowed him to sleep with me (back to my room). After that incident, it so-called became a habit. I tried to persuade him to sleep back in his room and this is how he answers me

“When I get egg (zero) for ejaan or spelling, then I will sleep back in my own room”

For the past 3 weeks…he’s been sleeping with me

@ 4yo 6 mths old

Puzzle Piece 1:

All along, P’s best friend is Nigel from the kindy. After much probing, Nigel is actually a year older and they are best friends because they are in the same afternoon session. When you ask P, who is your best friend, and he will say Nigel.

Puzzle Piece 2:

Ever since I moved to my new place, and have not decided to change to a nearer kindy, we travel 40km (20km/way) each day from the home to school. I think last year, I began to notice a white car that became very obvious. Ie…i see this white car at the school, and in my home community. Then I decided to play detective. and TRUE enough, this white car goes to the same kindy. At that point of time, I was thinking…”WAH, this kid/kids goes all the way to this kindy…this kindy must be something!!!”

And so one fine day last year, when both cars arrived at the school at the same time, I decided to introduce myself and we exchange communication and…… The kid that goes to school and from my same condo is NIGEL.

So we became a “Hi and Bye” friends. Nothing more. But at least I knew, if I needed help or an emergency, I can contact Nigel’s parents. and all these while, I know the parents as NIGEL’s parents.

Puzzle Piece #3

One fine day, this year and just recently, Nigel’s mom added me on Facebook. When I was deciding to accept or not, I was so blur as I do not normally add strangers. I had to go through and profile and confirm..”Oh..Nigel’s mummy and her name is xxxxxxx xxx”.

Puzzle Piece 4

This week was school reopening week (Week 19). On 19th itself, I received 3 miss-calls at 8am. Unknown number. No message left. You know, I dont pick up unknown numbers and at 8am, I am rushing to get out of the house. But my feelings told me to return call. So I did and it was Nigel’s mummy. She said from tomorrow onwards (next day), she wants to fetch P to school everyday!!!! I am happy.

I told P the night before that from Wednesday, you will follow who and who to school…he brushed me off saying “COME ON, are you kidding ME!!!” He was unsure if its true!!

That morning came, I tell you, P and Nigel were happy campers. I could see the morning mood changed for both the boys. and today is the 2nd trip… I wonder how long would it last? I dont want to give benefit of doubt. Now, I am asking myself, should I pay her for transport? or should I buy a gift? a gift for the parents and Nigel? I didnt ask for it but God sent to lift some of my responsibilities?

This arrangement is really good as

- P will not be late to school

- P will have to wake up early..(aka more discipline)

- He has friends to chat and grow….

- I get to work early

anyway Thank you Lord.

We made progress and at the same time, we failed some. I “thought” I found a solution in his spelling episodes. However, he stills come back with 100% and sometimes 0%. Never in between. How? Why no consistency?

and that being said, the yoyo effect also spread to me. I continued to have my mood swings plus stress from the office. Another thing, I have not registered P for govt school yet due to some issues. So the stress-burden-pressure is on HIGH mode. *bleh*

On a happier note, domestic side. My maid agreed to take on a reduce pay from Rm50 to rm30/day. *happy* started 1March. and on my last vacation, I met a couple in the plane. Taiwanese couple. We chatted. Then the couple came back to Msia. On the 3rd meeting, I invested with them. I got my first pay-out (dividend) just yesterday.